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Where I stand, and the words I use

Every family is different. This is what we do in our house, so you have a clear answer to start from.

A smartphone: when they get their driver's license. A flip phone: fine in middle school. A smartwatch: calls and texts only. Phones stay downstairs at night, and there are no phones at the dinner table.

No smartphone until they get their license, at 16, and no social media until then either. No smartphone or internet of their own until high school. Until then, a Tin Can or the landline for calls, and in middle school, texting on a flip phone.

TikTok, Snapchat and Instagram: not right now. YouTube: no, too many Shorts and creator videos. Discord: no, it's a group chat but worse. Group chats: make plans in person or on the landline. Going live: no. A phone for school: no, and in an emergency the teacher calls us.

Roblox friends: no, too many strangers. Online games: with a friend in person, and no one online. Buying things in games: not unless it's their own money. A game on the tablet: yes, on the big TV. The iPad: airplanes and long drives, with no internet.

AI for homework: not until high school, around 16. Until then I'm their tutor, and when a teacher assigns it, they do it the teacher's way and show me. What AI tells them: always check it, and use it as a last resort. AI friend apps: lean on real people.

Every answer comes with the whole conversation, word for word, in The Digital Childhood.

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The Digital Childhood, calm guidance for raising kids in a digital world

The Digital Childhood
Explainers
Know their world.
What the apps actually are.
Scripts
The words you need.
Protect
Hold the line together.
Explainers
How their apps work
Know their world.
What to know before the conversation, and a demo to try in each one.
For your kid this week
How each one works
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AI
Social
Games
Streaming
Phones
Their side of the phone
See what they see for a minute.
What your kid sees every day, a minute each and no typing. Every explainer above has its own demo too.
Tech Translator
What did they just say?
Look up the apps, AI tools and online words your kid keeps mentioning, and see what they actually mean.
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Offline Gear
Our picks
Bring back play.
Toys, tools and gear we actually like.

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Talking to friends
Music and stories
Games
Building and making
Exploring outside
Running around
Scripts
Things they say
You don't have to wing it.
Written out word for word, so you’re not on the spot.
For your kid this week
What to say, when they say…
Tap one to see what you’d say back.
All
AI
Social
Phones
Habits
Games
Didn't find the right script?
Tell Leaf what your kid said, and it’ll help you with what to say.
Tech Translator
When you don’t know the word
What did they just say?
Look up any app, AI tool or online term your kid mentions and see what it actually means.
How this works
Can't find the right script? Ask Leaf →
Protect
Family, friends, school
Start at home.
Then bring in the other parents, and their school.
One step at a time
Get everyone on the same page
You don't have to do this alone.
Step 1 · Your family
Family Digital Pact
The rules you agree on together
Step 2 · Their friends
Friend Group Pact
Get other families on the same page
Step 3 · Their school
School Action Kit
Letters and talking points for school
How the three steps fit together
People I trust Groups and people outside the app
Smartphone Free Childhood
Screen Sanity
Wait Until 8th
Schools Beyond Screens
Protect Young Eyes
Common Sense Media
The Screentime Consultant
Good Inside (Dr. Becky)
The Balance Project
Family IT Guy
The Smartphone Effect
SafeScreens
The Heat Initiative
The Mom Therapist
Tech-Safe Learning
Titania Jordan
Teen Tech Experiment
Parents Who Fight
Successful Parent
Tap for a new one every time
Offline Activity Generator
Activity ideas they'll actually want to do.
The Offline Adventure Kit
A free printable: twelve quests your kid can run on their own.
Offline Toys, Tools & Gear
Toys, tools and gear we actually like
Books worth reading
The Anxious Generation
A book on
The Anxious Generation
The Anxious Generation
Jonathan Haidt
How to Break Up with Your Phone
A book on
How to Break Up with Your Phone
How to Break Up with Your Phone
Catherine Price
The Amazing Generation
A book on
The Amazing Generation
The Amazing Generation
Jonathan Haidt & Catherine Price
Good Pictures Bad Pictures
A book on
Good Pictures Bad Pictures
Good Pictures Bad Pictures
Kristen A. Jenson
5 Habits of the Tech-Ready Family
A book on
5 Habits of the Tech-Ready Family
5 Habits of the Tech-Ready Family
Chris McKenna
The Digital Delusion
A book on
The Digital Delusion
The Digital Delusion
Jared Horvath
Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr
A book on
Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.
Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.
Kristen A. Jenson
Good Pictures Bad Pictures Guide for Girls
A book on
Guide for Girls
Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Guide for Girls
Kristen A. Jenson

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Friend Group
Pact
Their friends’ families
You’re not the only one waiting.
Send one text to the other parents and find out who else is holding off.
How this works
Pact Members
Shared agreements (0)
What you and these families are agreeing to
Add a custom agreement
The Friend Group Digital Plan
Prefer it on paper? The same agreement as a page your families can sign by hand.
Why this works
When enough families in the same friend group make the same decision together, it stops being such a big deal to be the one kid without it. It works a lot like the Wait Until 8th movement.
Ask
What’s on your mind?
Ask Leaf, from The Digital Childhood
Tell me what’s happening and I’ll help you find the right words.
Leaf is the app's AI helper. It answers from my scripts and explainers, and it isn't a doctor or a therapist.
Not sure where to start?
“She wants her phone in her room at night.”
“I don’t know what to say about AI.”
“Gaming is taking over our evenings.”
Thinking it through with you…
A few words to try
Leaf says
A note from Chelsea: Leaf answers from my scripts and explainers and follows rules I set for it, but it's still an AI and can get things wrong, and it isn’t a replacement for a pediatrician, therapist, or any licensed professional. If something feels serious, please reach out to someone you trust who can actually help in person.
My Family
Kids and settings
My Family
Every one of your kids is at a different stage, so each of them gets their own roadmap.
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Friend Group Pact
Get on the same page as their friends’ parents.
Family Digital Pact
Your routines and agreements.
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Settings
Your settings.
Reminders, emails and your account.
Your family setup
Go through setup again
Dark mode
Reminders
Weekly reminder
One calm note on Sunday evening, with something to try that week
About once a week, never more than one a day, and off whenever you want.
Your emails
A script in your inbox every Sunday, and one calm note a month with a script and something offline to try with your kids. We never spam and we never sell your email.
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Help & support
FAQ
Answers to what parents ask most
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About The Digital Childhood
Who makes this and why
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Free printables
The four kits, ready to print
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Email us
hello@thedigitalchildhood.com
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Founder's pricing
$29 a year for as long as you stay
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More from The Digital Childhood
For organizations
Bring it to the families you serve
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Privacy & data
Privacy Policy
How we protect your data
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Terms of Service
The rules for using the app
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Accessibility
Our WCAG 2.1 AA commitment
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Copyright (DMCA)
How to file a takedown notice
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Export my data
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Tell me what you think
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Anything you’d like added, changed or fixed. It comes straight to us.
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About
The Digital Childhood™
Calm guidance for raising kids in a digital world.
I'm Chelsea, and I built this for parents like me, the ones who needed a calm guide for the tech part of raising kids and couldn't find one anywhere.
I'm here to be a friend in your pocket.
I'm a stay-at-home mom of a son and a daughter in elementary school, and I was a kid who was deep in tech back when it wasn't on anyone's radar yet.
The Digital Childhood is what I wish my parents had when I was a kid, and what I wish I had now, so I created it.
There was plenty to read. What was missing was the translation: what does this mean for my kid, what should I do, and what do I actually say?
Before the app
After Cornell, I spent my career in HR, first at Capital One and then at the American Enterprise Institute, taking complicated things like benefits and company policies and making them easy for people to actually use.
It's the same work I do now, just with a different subject. I take the tech our kids are growing up with, figure out what parents actually need from it, and make it easier to handle.
When a hard moment happens, open The Digital Childhood.
Explainers
Context to understand your kid’s digital world
Scripts
Real scripts to explain technology to your kid
Protect
Pacts and offline tools to protect childhood
None of this would exist without my nephew, Jack Pohlad, the technical developer and builder of The Digital Childhood application.
Where I stand on every app
My answer on Snapchat, Roblox, YouTube, AI for homework and the rest, on one page.
Our approach
We're not anti-technology here. We just want the tech part of raising kids to feel a lot less overwhelming for you.
Technology is part of growing up today, and we want kids to use it well, so the app explains the tech they’re actually using, gives you the words for the hard moments, and leaves plenty of room for childhood to still feel like childhood.
Where this is grounded›
The Digital Childhood draws on research and reporting from the American Academy of Pediatrics, Common Sense Media, the Surgeon General's advisory on social media and youth mental health, the Wait Until 8th movement, Pew Research, and the work of Jonathan Haidt, among others. We try to anchor advice in real research.
What this app is not›
The Digital Childhood is meant to be a calm starting point for your family, and it isn’t a replacement for a pediatrician, therapist, or any licensed professional. If something feels bigger than a conversation, that’s when to call them. Leaf, the Ask feature, is an AI helper that answers from my scripts and explainers. It isn’t a person, and it isn’t a doctor. And if you or your child is ever in crisis, 988 is the 24/7 lifeline by call or text in the US.
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What parents searched for and didn't find
Everything a parent typed into a search box in the last 30 days that the app had no answer for, the most asked first. It's the list of scripts and explainers to write next. Only the words are kept, nothing about who typed them.
Check Leaf's voice
Asks Leaf ten real parent questions, the same way a parent would, and shows you every answer. Anything that doesn't sound like you gets flagged underneath it. Takes about a minute.
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Every feedback note and story a signed-in parent has sent, newest first. This is also emailed to hello@thedigitalchildhood.com as it comes in.
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Why this matters
Most parents think they're the only one dealing with this.
Roadmap
Stage by stage
What comes next.
What's happening at each stage and what to do about it.
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Everything you’ve saved.
Come back to any of it when you need it.
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Where I Stand
Every app they ask for
Where I stand, and the words I use.
Every family is different. This is what we do in our house, so you have a clear answer to start from.
The short version
  • No smartphone until they get their license, at 16.
  • No social media until then either.
  • No smartphone or internet of their own until high school.
  • Until then, a Tin Can or the landline for calls, and in middle school, texting on a flip phone.
That covers most of what they ask for. The rest, app by app, is below.
Tap one for the whole conversation, word for word.
Send this to a parent friend
It’s easier to stick to your answer when the other parents know what it is.
Demos
Try it yourself
See how their apps really work.
Tap one and it plays by itself first. Then try it yourself, and you'll see what your kid sees.
The Phone Talk
Start to finish
My kid wants a phone.
The words for tonight, what to say when they push back, and your house rules, one step at a time.
In Their Seat
You’re the kid for a minute
Pick a moment, read what’s on their phone, and choose what you’d do next.
Pick a moment
Family Pact
Your family’s rules
Write it together at the table.
Pick the parts that fit your house, everybody signs it, and the rules hold because everybody helped make them.
An example of a finished pact
Our Family Pact
  • All devices charge overnight in a shared spot like the kitchen
  • New apps require a conversation first
  • Parents follow the same meal and bedtime device rules
MomParent
AvaKid
BenKid
Signed and sealed together.
Yours will have the rules you pick below and everybody’s name on it.
How this works
Device Rules
Social Media & Apps
Safety & Communication
Parents Model It Too
Add Your Own
They get a say, too
Hand them your phone and let them add one thing they want in here. It goes over a lot better when they helped write it.
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Your Family Circle
Pick the agreements that already fit how your family wants to live with tech.
Signed by
Sign it together.
A pact only counts if everyone agrees.
Add your names and watch it take root.
Why this works
A pact your kids helped pick is a lot harder for them to argue with later. When they see their own name on it, the rules feel like something the whole family decided together. Print it, tape it to the fridge, and revisit it every six months as they grow.
Print the Family Digital Plan
A free printable pact, a phone parking sign, five scripts, and a 7-day reset.
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Activities
Offline ideas
Something else to do.
One idea at a time, for when you need an answer to “I’m bored” that isn’t the tablet.
How this works
Your next idea is one tap away.
Pick a filter or just hit Go and we’ll find something fun.
201 activities to discover
School Kit
Their school
You don’t have to write the email.
It’s already written. Change the parts that don’t sound like you and send it.
Print the School Action Kit
A free printable: the letter, the PTA agenda, and the questions to ask.
How this works
Your packet is taking shape
Add your name below and your letter is ready. Everything else is optional.
Your Letter, written for you
This is your letter. Tap any line to edit it in your own words.
Reset to the suggested letter
Add your name and this is ready to copy or share ↓
Your Details
Pick Your Talking Points
Check the ones you want in your letter:
Put it together
This is everything that goes in your packet. Tap a part to look inside, and switch off anything you don’t want to send.
Your letter
Always in. Tap to change it.
The PTA agenda
Fifteen minutes is all you really need.
Questions to bring
12 questions to ask your school.
Your School Action Packet
One page with your letter, the agenda and the questions, ready to print, save or send to other parents and your school.
Add your name first.
Research you can use
54%
of students used AI for school in the 2024-25 school year.
Source: RAND, 2025
82%
of teachers get no formal guidance on how to use AI in their work.
Source: Gallup and the Walton Family Foundation, 2026
34%
of teachers say their school has a policy on AI and academic integrity.
Source: RAND, 2025
States That Did This
Some states are already writing the rules.
OH
Ohio
JULY 2026
ID
Idaho
STATEWIDE
MD
Maryland
STATEWIDE
OK
Oklahoma
STATEWIDE
VA
Virginia
STATEWIDE
Ohio required every school district to adopt an AI policy by July 2026, and Tennessee has required one since 2024. Idaho, Maryland, Oklahoma and Virginia have passed laws that put state AI guidance and district policies in place too. Asking your school where it stands is a fair question.
More Resources
Schools Beyond Screens
Parents and teachers pushing for less tech in the classroom
Tech-Safe Learning
Safe tech practices for schools
Common Sense Media
Age-based media ratings and digital citizenship
Wait Until 8th
Pledge to delay smartphones until a later grade
Phone-Free Schools Movement
Parents and educators pushing for bell-to-bell phone-free policies
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