The Phone Years
“She had a phone when she was my age.”
What to say
Start here
"You're right, she did. It has nothing to do with you being the younger one in the family. I've had some time to understand the risks and the consequences of getting access to things too early, and I want to make sure I'm protecting you in a way that gives you freedom but doesn't jeopardize your mental health or put you in a bad position."
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Read the rest in the appWhy this matters
It feels unfair because their older sibling really did get different rules, and the reason is that the apps changed. I'd just tell them you changed your mind and why. Then give this kid their own phone timeline in writing, so they have something to look forward to and aren't comparing themselves to their sibling.
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